Carpe Diem

“Nothing haunts us like the things we don’t say.” -Mitch Albom

What an inspirational and profoundly accurate quote.  Whether it be through writing, with loved ones, or in therapy, if there are things that are still forefront in your mind that prevent you from living well – Get them out! Part of life is love and loss.  It is how you handle the loss, the dark times, the difficult moments that ultimately defines you.  We all have our crosses to bear, but it is important to always have faith.

Faith that things will get better.  Faith that things can be better.  Whether it be a faith in God, science, or a purple donkey… It is crucial that you believe in something.  “If you can’t have faith in what is held up to you for faith, you must find things to believe in yourself, for a life without faith in something is to narrow a space to live.” –George Woodbury

Let your past help mold you into the person you want to be.  If you’re unhappy with how things are currently, make a change! Nothing is stagnant in life, unless you choose to be.  Live the life you’ve imagined.  Cast doubt behind you and embrace who you are meant to be.  Find joy in the mundane.  Follow what speaks to you.  Live!

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Dreams

“Dreams are like stars… you can’t touch them, but you can follow them to your destiny.”

Go for your dreams.  Dream BIG.  Who cares if they don’t work out? Or you fall flat on your face? At least you can say you tried.  And even if you have some difficulty the first time around, keep after it.  Whether it be starting your own business, changing careers, going back to school, etc… Do what makes you happy.

If the career you have chosen is not where your heart lies, then you will be a slave to your job.  It is important to care.  It is essential that you have passion for what you do.

Otherwise, what’s the point?

If you feel pulled in another direction, maybe it’s worth exploring.  If you care about what you do, it will always show in your work.  Passion follows career follows success.  Keep after what you want.  Do the things that make you happy at your core.  You’ve only got one life.  Live it! 🙂

A Smile

I regularly frequent a place that has a yoga studio on the second floor.  On my way into the building, the genuine, heartfelt, and happy smiles these yogis greet me with is truly uplifting.  It may sound silly, but you can just feel the happiness and warmth behind many of their smiles.  It helps set the tone for my entire day.

There is something truly wonderful about a smile.  Especially a smile from a stranger.  There is nothing more behind it than kindness… A smile costs us absolutely nothing but can certainly help improve the mood of those around us.  Energies are contagious, is yours worth catching?

The next time you see a stranger or someone who is struggling, try simply offering them a smile.  Peacefully observe the reaction you get, whether positive or negative, and notice the shift within.  The simple act of smiling improves our own happiness as well.

Have a good day! 🙂

Making Happiness a Priority

If you are unhappy, do something about it.  Nothing is worth being unhappy for.  In fact, my favorite quote is “Life’s too short to be anything but happy.”

Take the time to determine what things make you the most happy in life and set out planning a life you enjoy.  One you don’t need a vacation from.  If your job makes you miserable, find a new job.  If you’re unhappy in your relationship, try your best to work on things, and if at the end of the day certain issues are unfixable for what ever the reason – Take stock of things and determine whether or not staying in an unhappy relationship is in your best interest.  In any of your relationships, be they romantic, friendship, familial, etc…, the single most important factor is whether or not you leave feeling happier after you spend time with that person.  Do you genuinely enjoy their company?

The energy you put out there is what you attract.  And in a similar vein, if you are spending time with negative people, whether voluntarily or involuntarily, make sure to make your health and happiness a priority.  We all have certain situations or people we may not enjoy being around, that is life, do your best to recognize this and limit your time with these people if possible.

As someone who is a happy, optimistic person, I am often left feeling drained when I am around negative people for too long.  With clients, I know how to manage this.  In fact, it is part of the reason they are in your office and is something they are usually willing to work on.  That is something to be commended.  Having the foresight to know that you are struggling with a certain issue and to be actively taking steps to change it.

If someone is treating you badly, it is simply a reflection of how they feel inwardly.  It is up to you to choose how you handle it.

And remember, it is often those who are the most difficult to love that need it the most.

So for today, take the time to do something that makes you happy.  Whether it be a walk in nature, reading, or drinking a hot chocolate.  Take time to enjoy the beautiful fall foliage and appreciate the good things in your life.  There is always, always, always something to be grateful for. ❤